Noticing What I Notice

DetachmentSo twice today I was noticing what I was noticing. I practiced observing without emotionally engaging in what was going on in an interaction with my husband, and later in an interaction with a customer service agent on the phone.

It takes discipline to be in a place of detachment with others! At first, I want to react and feel upset that they are really just trying to annoy me, to bully me, to shame me. But if I just breathe, breathe, breathe, and then start really observing where they are coming from, I see a whole new picture of where they really are.

So today I started to realize that maybe my husband was just frustrated with himself, not me. And maybe that customer service agent was just really stressed with his work, not really so condescending after all.

What if just one time today, each one of us practiced being detached and observing what was happening in an interaction with another?

What if we could do it all day, every day? How would things be different in our lives?